In the black sororities, they celebrate achievement academically, and they really do work toward community service. As much as the white sororities claim that's the case in their groups, it's not really so. White sororities focus on relationships.
Adults tell students that it gets better, that the world changes after school, that being 'different' will pay off sometime after graduation. But no one explains to them why.
I tend to focus on young people and on giving a voice to groups of people who don't normally get their voices heard.
Since 'The Overachievers' came out, I've been doing a lot of lectures and talking to kids across the country.
There are three elements to perceived popularity. A student has to be visible, recognizable and influential.
I would hate to be in high school now. Psychologists talk about the 'imaginary audience' that teens seem to feel they have around them and that makes them think they have to keep up their image all the time. Now with Facebook and MySpace and 24/7 online access, that imaginary audience has become real.